How to overcome my fear?

I've been surfing the web tonight and trying to figure out how to deal with my fears. My biggest fear is showing affection (anything to do with french kissing, feeling each other, sex, etc)

I am 20 years old, I've never had a boyfriend and also, I've never been kissed.

It's not that I had never had the chance to... Because I sure have, but I've kept rejecting them.

I get extremely nervous when guys ask me on a date and I have to go to one. I get nausea, confused, I sweat, I get completely nervous... and during the date I'm even worse... I shake and can't stop talking, I hope the date nearly ends and I wouldn't have to make out with the guy. I feel pressured... I feel as if it's just 'expected'.

I've lied to my friends, telling them I have made out with a guy before...
People have embarrassed, humiliated, hurt me by joking and laughing at me because I was still a virgin.

I feel pressured from all sides of the world. I feel lonely. I feel unwanted.. Even though I know that there are 2 guys that really like me (both pretty nice looking, friendly and intelligent guys around 23/24 years old).

I just don't know what to do.

I wish I could show my affection, I am dying to try it out sometime, seeing what is so special about making out, feeling each other up and having sex. I am dying to get together with someone. I am dying to get more 'spice' into my life- have something to look forward to, getting excited, feeling close to one another.

The question is- how to I overcome my fears??

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